"are you mom enough"
The front cover shows a beautiful slim mum breastfeeding her 3 year old son. Who I must add looks a lot older and bigger then the average 3 year old. Having a 3 year old myself he is a lot bigger then my sonny who is actually 4 next month.
I have seen some amazing comments and some very disturbing ones too.
Some negatives I've seen include the words. Porn. Incest. Child abuse. Disgusting. Plus many more.
My personal opinion is this and this is coming from someone who breastfed all three of there children. The longest being 1 year and 2 weeks.
Let's start with the boys age he is 3 not 15. In my eyes a 3 year old is a toddler not a grown boy. Clearly looking at him the breast milk has made him in to a very strong healthy boy. What is so wrong with doing what nature intends your breast to do. It's only society and media that's made breast more of a sexual thing.
Yes breasts are beautiful and very attractive they are part of what makes a woman beautiful. But why do men find them so attractive ? What is it that makes breasts so sexy ? only a man could answer that one ha ha.
My mum couldn't breast feed me or my sister due to medication she had to take. She would have loved to and I feel very grateful that I could.
I remember as a child cuddling my mum and always putting my head on her boobs they were squishy and comfy. But there's a truly comforting about a mothers boobs isn't there ?
Something nurturing and calming I would say.
This I think has a big part in the male fascination with them its something that nature intended them to love. I'm a female but I love boobs who wouldn't. I love mine for many reasons including that they fed my children.
So back to the issue.
What makes people think these images are disgusting . Pornographic ?
Is it because people just think that breast feeding is for little babies?
Or that people have there own issues ?
If rosa had decided to breast feed longer I would have carried on she weened herself of the breast at 1. I don't know how long I would have fed her for but even at two she is still little in my eyes.
Now for the facts.
Breast milk changes with the needs of a child. Breast milk for a newborn is totally different to that of a one year old and so on. This is because many many years ago this was the only way you fed your child feed your child by breast other wise it would die let's not forget that's what breast are for ain't they.
In other countries breast feeding your child well in to infancy is the only way they can keep there child alive.
I don't like the title of the front cover
"are you mom enough"
Some mums can't breast feed and this does NOT make them a weaker mum or less of a mum. You do what's best for your child don't you?
Everyone has there own choices I believe and don't let anyone pressure you or tell you other wise.
If you want to bottle feed your baby then go ahead or breast feed until the child is 10 then go ahead. Just don't judge people by there choices this is what makes us human and independent let's keep it this way.
The magazine did what it was intended to do get people talking. Get people to buy the mag.
As a photographer i have a shoot in a few weeks with two beautiful ladies who are breastfeeding there babies one who is still small around 16 weeks old and the other who is coming up to two. The reason for this is to highlight how beautiful breastfeeding is. I can't wait for this shoot and can't wait for everyone to see the photos so watch this space :)
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